I have immersed myself in personal and leadership development over the past 5 months and there is so much that I have learned about myself and humans in general.
One of the things that stands out to me is how committed we are to being right all the time. We will wage wars and disconnect from people just so that we can be right and they wrong.
Through the education process that I have been going through, I have come to a realization that this righteousness, and justifying ourselves all the time is simply a pretence that we have developed over time to avoid responsibility and accountability. Interesting, is it not?
Try noticing this next time you are either part of a conversation or hearing a conversation between 2 people. You will be able to hear it right in the conversation that there is more of a need for being right than for the person to being committed to something much higher than that.
Example: My wife called held me accountable on one of the financial agreements that we had between her and I. Automatically when she called me on it, I had an urge to defend myself by making her wrong and highlighting where she dropped the ball.
This is how we, as humans, continue to live life.
Have you noticed that many of us play the famous Tim’s role; you know, VIC-TIM. It is never our responsibility: it is the economy, it is the other person, it is the market, it was the schooling, it is our company, it is our spouse, it is the prospects, it is our parents, it was our siblings, it is our friends, it is the product, it is the business, etc…it is never us.
Let’s look at this VIC-TIM idea and see where we apply it in life; how is that area of our life doing? Chances are, there is a lack of power.
To live life powerfully try taking on that we have created and attracted the things we have and the things that we do not have. Instead of being committed to our righteousness, let’s be committed to building up people. Let’s just in our small ways, we become responsible for our experience of what life brings our way. In any given situation let’s ask the question to ourselves, “how can I be responsible for my experience?”
We are powerful beings. Yet we lack compassion for ourselves and for our fellow humans. What if you could accept everyone for who they are? How ridiculous is it to accept the people in your lives for who they are not? Why are we always out there to change people? Treat others as if they are powerful beings, and in turn see your life turn.
